“Running a family alongside being in the army is not always smooth sailing, 100% stable or future proof. Simply because of the nature of the work you can move around a lot. Sometimes it’s hard to make future decisions. For example my husband is in (redacted location) at the moment and next year may be moving to (redacted location). So we have a house secured in first (redacted location) we are about to move into our house December this year, we are just about to decorate, I can’t wait! However, if plans go ahead and he moves to the other (second redacted location) next year, we may have to move house again. I suppose i’ll be able to decorate all over again too.
Army life has an impact, it impacts schooling - our boys may have to move schools again. My eldest just settled into his new school this September. It also impacts things like forming friendly neighbour relationships and getting to know the locals and the area. When we move around, it can be difficult for the family. Moving around the can impact the children’s education and my own work. At the moment I am caring for my youngest son full time so it doesn’t currently impact my job, but if I do go back into my field of work these are the kinds of things I will need to think about. My son has started his first school this year September, in December he will be moving to his second school and if next years plans go ahead, as planned, he will be moving to a third school. This is one thing to bear in mind, being in the army can definitely affect things like this. Both future plans and present”

Katie and John

Married couple together for six years, two children 2 and 5. John is based in the supply wing of the army and is currently away on ‘exercise’. I had the pleasure of interviewing his lovely wife to learn and understand a little about her views and experiences as a ‘soliders wife’ as she carries the main carer responsibilities for the couples two children whilst supporting her husbands career.

November 2025

The Baking Sanctuary runs tailored work shops especially for Active servicemans spouses and children. We aim to provide support to families who are undergoing challenges with transitions and assist families who are selflessly adapting to army life. With a background in teaching, counselling and special educational needs, we pride ourselves on creating inclusive family-led spaces for families who desire community, consistency and a space to belong. Together we combat isolation that can be felt by those shouldering duties that need to be taken care of in the family home whilst soldiers are away on duty. We consider each casework individually and provide tailored support packages, enriching mindful baking actives and of course a warm cup of coffee and a listening ear to all carers and or spouses struggling with ongoing changes that come as part of the role.